The Awkward Conversation could consist of a few different things. Here, though, I am more concerned about the conversation between good friends. How does one bring up that they are either interested in their good friend?
In fact, should it even be brought up?
I find it rather amusing as an outsider to watch two best friends skirt around each other and dance the pretend dance of friendship when it is clear to everone else that they are madly in love with each other. My mind immediately screams to me: 'why don't they just tell each other how they feel?'. To me, it seemed very logical that if two people like each other, they should just explain that and fall into a happy and healthy relationship like it happens in the movies.
Life isn't like the movies. Or that's my opinion anyway.
Let's say that for my example, that he is fawning after her, but she is currently in a relationship? It gets rocky here. If she decides that she likes him too (which I am in no doubt that he would prefer) and she decides to leave her current relationship in favour of this new beau, it would leave a few problems floating in the air.
First off, perhaps the new couple find out that they were much better suited as friends. If that is the case, perhaps they saved their friendhsip long-term. However in the short term, after a few moments of trials while they discover this case, they are stuck in that awkward phase where the feelings each other have need to be reverted from relationship to friendship. In theory it sounds easy but in practice I beg to differ. I have watched many relationships crumble and the resulting singles battle their tormenting emotions while they struggle to regain their once-amazing friendship. It rarely, if ever, is the same after that brief joining of hearts.
Say it all works out between the friends and they have realised that they are really soul-mates. Great! They found their soul-mate! But I believe that the niggling thought would play in the back of his mind - she left her previous partner at the drop of a hat because I came along and confessed my undying love to her. And he, no doubt, would think, what if she leaves me when or if someone else professes the same? I am hesitant to say the couple would live in pure bliss if that scenario occured.
If she heard him out and politely turned him down, would seem the most likely option. After all, she is with her current partner and one would assume it is because she adores him. )However there could always be other motivating factors which I will not discuss here). To have something that heavy thrust upon a friendship is quite dangerous - or at least that is what we are lead to believe. But when I think about it, if my best friend said to me that he loves me I doubt I could ever look at him the same way again, even if I tried extremely hard. We may be 99% the same as before the news broke, but there would always be that knowledge that he dreams of seeing you naked.
So, one would be forgiven if they are to think at this point that to mention one's feelings in this scenario. However, assuming that no feeling were confessed and the trio continued to live as one would expect: a happy couple, good friends, and a man in pain. No crush is easy, indeed it does crush your heart, soul and the very fibre of your being to be so madly attached to one you can't have. Or maybe that's just the butterflies and knots in your stomache. Whichever it is - it hurts. His pain would logically feed into the friendship and perhaps teint the relationship between the two friends.
If he has felt this way for sometime, she probably even knows that he feels this way, or at least suspects it. It would put a strain on the relationship both between her and her friend and also her an her partner. And indeed, if the two men are friends, there would be some strain on that relationship as well.
Presuming she finds the courage or decides it to be logical to bring up the situation with her friend. She could either clear the air with the weight off both of their minds and the above situations would ensue. Or the weight of the fresh knowledge would wedge them apart.
What if her suspicions were wrong and he wasn't romantically inclined with her but she was just reading too deeply into their friendship.
It's risky business... not to mention a truly awkward conversation.
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